You know that saying, right? It takes a village to raise a child. I have to say I didn't always believe that to be true. I was arrogant and naive. Then I had a child of my own...and no village to help me raise him. It was hard.
We were living in Denver when Liam was born. I thought we would be okay. But Liam proved to be a high-needs baby and I found myself raising him practically by myself. Alex helped when he could but he had to work a lot and his schedule was somewhat unpredictable. It was a lonely and stressful time in my life. It wasn't long before I decided that we needed to move back to Miami, to be around family and close friends. And then I found myself pregnant again...much sooner than we had anticipated having another child. If raising one was difficult, I didn't want to imagine raising two with little to no help.
So we moved back to Miami and we have found our village. I don't know how other moms do it, maybe they have that special parenting gene I talked about last week, but having this village to help raise our children is truly invaluable.
My grandmother is an amazing woman. She and Isabel are thick as thieves. My aunt has also taken to Isabel. Liam and my mother-in-law go out all the time and have fun together. When my parents are in town they always help to entertain the children and show them such love. And there's no shortage of (free!) babysitters...my cousin, sisters, friends...so many people are ready and willing to help, I've never even had to ask. And even though some people may look down on the fact that we live in my mom and dad's house with my grandma, I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm so thankful that my grandma is here everyday. My family is constantly in and out of this house. I'm still the main one caring for my kids seeing as everyone else works, but when they're not working, they're loving on my kids. What a blessing! And you know, that's the way it should be. Moms are under so much pressure to do it all. Accepting help can be difficult when you're constantly being reminded that you should be able to do it on your own, especially if you're a stay-at-home mom. But again, having a village is invaluable. Every single person in our village is contributing to the growth of my children...they will be better little humans because of all the love, care, knowledge, attention, and affection being handed down to them.
I just have to say, thank you, village. I couldn't do it without you. I'm a much better mom because you support and love us so well.